It’s time to reconnect with your partner

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Sometimes, because life get’s so busy and stressful, you can lose sight of what truly matters. Your romance life matters, and it’s important that you do not let it fall down your list of priorities. As responsibilities pile up and routines become rigid, the spark that once ignited your relationship begins to flicker. This can leave you feeling distant and disconnected from your other half. But wait! If you are feeling this way, fear not! Every relationship has it’s ups and downs, and the journey to reignite that flame starts with finding those feelings of connection again. In this blog post, we are going to share tactics and explore how you can best reconnect with your partner. You will leave with strategies up your sleeve to strengthen your bond, and help rediscover the joy and intimacy that brought you two together in the first place.

Your romantic relationship is going to go through many different phases. It is normal to feel disconnected from time to time however, that does not mean that you just ignore those feelings. It’s crucial to talk about feeling disconnected and to take action to reconnect with your partner. Acknowledging that you are feeling this way, and communicating this struggle is your first step to reconnection. Let’s jump into how you can improve emotional, physical, intellectual and spiritual intimacy.

Why Do I Feel Disconnected From My Partner?

So, we have established that feeling disconnected from your partner is pretty normal, but why exactly is it so normal? Well, different aspects of your relationship require different amounts of energy and attention. If you are lacking that energy and attention in various areas, it’ll result in disconnection. With life’s many responsibilities and obstacles, it can be far too easy to rearrange priorities and put energy into the things that aren’t your relationship. Your career, hobbies and other family members, are common examples. If you’ve been throwing yourself into work and using up all of your energy in your studies or your job, you’ll have none left for your S.O. (Significant Other). The same goes for all other examples of your responsibilities. Putting all your time into sports coaching, or focusing on connecting with your kids over your partner are ways in which you can lose that special connection. It’s important that you communicate well, show vulnerability, share quality time, have enough physical contact and keep things exciting! If these things fall by the wayside, you won’t feel close and connected.

Ask yourself these questions if you’ve been wondering why you feel disconnected from your partner:

• How much quality time have I spent with my partner this month?
• Have I been open and honest when communicating?
• What have I been doing to express my love?
• Have I initiated physical contact frequently?
• When did I last do something spontaneous with my partner?
• Does my partner still show their vulnerabilities?

Your answers to the questions above will reveal the reasons why you are feeling disconnected. It’s time we do something about it!

Here Are 10 Ways to Reconnect With Your Partner

1. Schedule a time to check-in with one another

Checking in with your partner is a great way for you to reconnect with them. A check in doesn’t need to be very formal, it’s just about providing your partner the undivided attention and support they deserve. If you have found that life’s responsibilities are getting in the way of your communication, then this is also a perfect approach to improving it. You only have to spare 10-15 minutes when checking-in with your partner (Jenna Schreck, Byrdie). It’s a small window where you can ask the important questions you have, offer a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on. These sorts of catch ups will allow you and your partner a chance to talk about the stuff you otherwise left unsaid, which will help tremendously with you two feeling more connected.

2. Use these appreciation and gratitude activities

Showing appreciation and expressing gratitude for your partner will really help you reconnect. There are many fun ways to do this too! Get started with 1 of these 3 activities:

Gratitude jar

Reconnect with your partner by filling up a gratitude jar together. This is a good activity if you are running short for time with one another since it only takes up 1-2 minutes a day. Each day you are going to note down something about your partner that you are grateful for and add it to the jar. Whether it acknowledges something they’ve done for you or a personality trait of theirs that you appreciate, writing these notes will remind you why you are committed to your other half. When the jar is getting near full, you can begin to take a note out each day and read the things your partner has been grateful for.

Exchanging love letters

A cliché but still very effective activity for reconnecting with your partner is writing and exchanging love letters. When you and your partner are able to free up a 30min-1hr timeslot, sit down together and put pen to paper. You’re each going to write a letter that explains what you love about the other person. Don’t be shy to dive into detail – they’re your partner afterall! Once you have finished composing your letters, exchange them and have a read. It will be so nice seeing that what you’re doing for your S.O. is being acknowledged and deeply appreciated.

Daily compliments

Another great activity for showing gratitude and appreciation is sharing daily compliments with your other half. This one is great to do early in the morning or late at night, when you are resting and can be fully focused on your partner. Keep your phones down and all other distractions out of sight so that you communicate effectively. Take turns complimenting one another, share smiles and have a laugh. It can be lighthearted and fun if you want it to be! What’s important is that your S.O. starts/ends the day feeling loved and appreciated.

3. Get away from it all

Hmm, so you’ve been feeling disconnected from your partner? Relationship Fluent prescribes you a holiday! Getting away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life can do so much for your relationship. A common reason for the spark dwindling in a romance is that people start to get caught up in other priorities. It might be that your workload is overwhelming or that kids are soaking up a lot of those spare moments. Whatever the reason, an opportunity to escape all external stressors will give you and your partner the chance to breath and sync up again. It doesn’t need to be an extravagant or expensive vacation, it can be simple and sweet! In fact, the simpler the better! You are going to focus on connecting with your partner while away. Try out some fun bonding activities (The 10 Best Travel Activities for Couples, Nomago), delve into some exciting conversation topics and reignite that spark with some physical affection!

4. Write down your feelings

To be emotionally connected with your partner, you need your feelings to be heard and you need to understand their feelings too. Writing down your feelings helps you reconnect with your partner. If there are topics you’ve been struggling to speak about, but you know need to be discussed, then this is the prime opportunity for you to bring them up. Instead of getting caught in the heat of confrontation, take 10 minutes to write about any of your challenges or frustrations with a clearer mind. Your partner can then read what you’ve written to gain insight to your struggles and they’ll be able to empathise. That’s enough for the negative feelings though – you can write down positive feelings too! The awesome part about writing all this down is that you can carefully articulate how you feel. You can tell you partner how your heart races when they’re around, or how staring into their eyes takes you to another place. Communicating your feelings is not just important, it is essential. So, next time you’re lost for words in convo, try putting pen to paper.

5. Be vulnerable and empathetic

Vulnerability is a key aspect in all healthy relationships (not just romantic ones). When you are in a committed relationship, it’s important that you are able to share your feelings and thoughts without the worry of feeling unheard or judged. Being completely open with your partner, even about the most sensitive of subjects, is what will bring you closer. So, to reconnect with your partner, be vulnerable. If there was something in your day that made you feel upset, seek their support and empathy. If you had a moment of extreme embarrassment, tell them – they are your vault. On the flip side of this, offering support and empathy to your partner does so much for your relationship. Share your vulnerabilities, be empathetic, and show your partner some love.

6. Set aside time for physical connection

We’ve talked about reconnecting with your partner emotionally, but now it’s time for to delve into physical touch. Physical affection is a comforting, fun and exciting aspect in romantic relationships. After being with your S.O. for quite some time, your physical connection can feel lost or be lacking. If you are experiencing this, do not feel disheartened. It’s very normal to go through this. Taking action is what’s important! As soon as you’ve noticed you’re missing physical affection, go after it. You don’t just need to seek physical touch in the bedroom either. It could be a matter of holding hands while out for a stroll, cuddling on the couch while watching a movie, or giving a kiss on the forehead when your arrive home from work. Communicate with your partner if you’d like to improve the physical side of your relationship, because this type of affection will keep your spark alive.

7. Start a new hobby together

Starting a new hobby with your partner is a wonderful way to reignite your connection and deepen your bond! Sharing a hobby allows you to spend much needed quality time together. Find something that excites you both, even if it means trying out a few different hobbies. The search for something you both share a passion for might be just what you need. Whether it’s learning a new language, dancing, or gardening, exploring something new together can spark excitement and it’ll likely create lasting memories. You will have challenging moments in any hobby, and learning to navigate that together all while having a laugh really does bring you closer together. Embarking on a new hobby together is not just about the activity itself, it’s also about the journey of growth and connection that it provides you and your partner.

8. Surprises and spontaneity

Surprises and spontaneity bring a lighthearted and fun energy into your relationship. Whether it’s planning an ‘out of the blue’ adventure, surprising your S.O. with their favorite meal, or whisking them out on a last minute date, these unexpected gestures communicate love, thoughtfulness, and excitement! By breaking routine and stepping out of the ordinary, you’ll rediscover the thrill of discovery and adventure together. Surprises evoke feelings of joy, anticipation, and appreciation, reminding you and your partner of the magic and spontaneity that initially drew you two together. Spontaneous acts also show your willingness to prioritise the relationship and they’ll make your other half feel cherished and valued. Keep the romance and excitement alive by escaping the ordinary!

9. Give each other some feedback

If you are feeling disconnected from your partner, it’s important that you talk about it. Having open and honest conversations with your partner is a great way to start reconnecting. The conversations you have about your relationship need to address how you can improve it. Giving each other feedback about how you’ve been in your relationship is a really powerful approach to reconnecting and as a result, it improves your relationship. If you can have a serious chat about what you both can improve on, it shows maturity and expresses your love for one another. Providing your partner critical feedback is not about yelling at them, saying what they’re doing wrong. It’s more along the lines of something like this – “I’ve noticed you’ve been prioritising your DIY project over the cleaning. The house is a bit of a mess, and I can’t keep up. I’d appreciate if you prioritised the cleaning this week. Is that okay?” These are the steps to making your relationship work, even when it’s being tested by life’s stress and other external factors getting in the way.

10. Revisit what ignited your spark

Revisiting the moments that initially ignited the spark in your relationship can help you in your journey of reconnecting with your partner. Reflecting on shared memories of laughter, excitement, and intimacy will bring you feelings of nostalgia and remind you both of the passion and joy you have experienced together. Whether it’s revisiting the place where you had your first date, recreating a special moment, or simply reminiscing about the early days of your romance, these reflections can reignite your flame of love. When you look at the qualities and experiences that initially drew you to each other, you will renew your sense of appreciation and admiration of one another. Revisiting these moments will be enjoyable and impactful. Let this be one of the ways you reconnect with your S.O. and strengthen your bond.

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There are so many wonderful ways to reconnect with your significant other. We’d love to hear your stories on how you’ve kept your connection strong, or how you’ve rediscovered the spark in your relationship after feeling disconnected. Share them with us below in the comments section ❤️