Are you here because you want to send the ultimate love text to your boyfriend? Well, you have come to the right place!
Expressing love for your other half is a key part of romantic relationships. For some, it can be difficult to do this through text. Don’t worry though, we are here to help. This step-by-step process will show you how to form a message for him that is unique to your relationship and have him break out his biggest smile!
In this post, ‘Words of affirmation‘ is our focused love language. It is one of many you will learn to improve with Relationship Fluent! This focus is what will help you write the best love text possible.
This post will help you write the best love text to your boyfriend.
You are about to put those 3-word “I Love You” texts to shame. Time to make your boyfriend feel more loved than ever! Here we go…
How to write the best love text to your boyfriend:
1. Communicate your purpose to him
To begin your message it is important you take your man’s mind to another place. As cliché as it sounds, it is important! The start of any text is like the start of a novel; it sets the scene. If you give the purpose of your text, he will pay less attention to his surroundings and focus better on what is to follow in your lovey-dovey text. This attention takes his mind from thinking a million thoughts to thinking one, “This girl loves me“.
What is your purpose? Well, you want to show him your love through words of affirmation, right? Although you may think this step is brief, it can still be personalised. Step 1 involves the why too.
Here are some examples to help get you started!
- Hey ____, I am writing this text because when I walked through the park this morning, I saw a couple sharing a picnic and thought how much I love to do that with you. I cherish our moments together and this gave me inspiration to tell you how much I love sharing my life with you.
- Good morning ____! I woke up this morning thinking of you *insert heart-eyes emoji* Wow, I can not explain the love I have for you. You are constantly in the back of my mind. I am sending you this text because I wanted to make you feel special this morning.
2. Reference your shared history
This step is to have him flashback to memories. The history between a couple is what makes them strong. Have him think back to key moments where your connection became stronger. This will surely have him start to bust out that smile you are daydreaming about.
Alrighty, here’s the way we suggest you come up with what part(s) of your relationship history to talk about. Exit this page. Yes, that’s right, close google and head to your camera roll. Wait, please come back though! Keep the window open! You still have 5 more steps! Select a couple of photos that have you reminiscing over shared memories. With the photos you have found, describe what is happening in the moments. Your history is a collection of single moments. Which are most powerful to you?
Provoke him to think of the history with terms like ‘remember when…’, ‘OMG, that day when we…’.
After a brief description of the memory, bring it into context. Go on to explain why this means so much to you and why it reminds you of the love you wish to express.
3. Discuss what you have learned during the relationship
Times of learning occur in all relationships, particularly romantic ones. Embrace the fact that you were once naïve to certain things and because of the relationship you are in, you are becoming less and less so. Bonds between people encourage all involved individuals to see from other perspectives, challenge themselves and learn new skills from their partner. This is powerful for growth.
The reason this is step 3 is that learning in a relationship occurs during significant moments in the history of a given relationship.
Think back to those photos you looked at in step 2, maybe some others, or even the not-so-fond memories hidden away in your mind. Which of these have you thinking of times when you needed to switch perspectives? Have given you a chance to learn more about yourself? Or have allowed your boyfriend to help you grow?
Tell your boyfriend about what you have learned in the good times and the hard times.
Take a look at an example to get you out of that writer’s block:
Step 2. Can you believe it was a year ago we took our first trip out of town together? Step 3. That first night when we decided to camp out and you had never pitched a tent. We had our tiff over the setup, but the I realised how you never had the chance to camp before. It helped me learn to be a lot more patient and for good reason!
4. ‘Show’ your appreciation
Arguably the most important step in writing the best love text to your boyfriend. This is where people who are stronger in love languages besides words of affirmation can take a big leap in learning! There are two ways in which you can show your appreciation for him.
Firstly, you can show appreciation for what you enjoy doing with him or the little moments that you share. Before typing this step, we highly encourage you to use your imagination for a minute. Think, if he were next to you right now, what would you like to do to be doing with him? Would your instinct be to take him out for a meal and share quality conversation or to lay down and snuggle up to watch a film? Type out the action you are thinking of. Or have a think about little moments that you share in your everyday life that mean a lot to you. It could be things like, him giving you a big hug when he walks through the door at the end of the day or spending the evening cooking together or even as simple as taking the time to brush your teeth together (dental hygiene is important).
Your man will adore knowing how much his presence is appreciated.
The second way to show appreciation is to focus on some specifics about him. Are there some things he does that are worth mentioning? Who am I kidding, of course there are! If you use sentence starters such as the ones below, the following words will write themselves!
- I love when you…
- I love your…..
- Every time you… …makes me appreciate you that much more
- The way you interact with others makes me notice…
Don’t be afraid to get mushy. Guys try hard to hide it, but most really do love it.
5. Let him know how he makes you feel
How does this person make you feel? In previous steps, we discuss what things have happened during your relationship and what your boyfriend does for you. Now it is time you delve deeper into the emotions involved.
One thing to note regarding step 6 is that love is not one feeling, but rather a culmination of many. So, this means we have plenty to work with!
It can sometimes be hard to identify particular feelings, and that is completely okay! In this case, we recommend you embrace the fact that you experience so many feelings. It can help to make a beautiful impact on your partner- especially if they have a similar experience.
For example: When we spend time together I feel overwhelmed by all of the powerful feelings I have for you. I can not explain it, I feel everything at once.
In other cases, you can get down to fine details. Talk about it all; joy, excitement, even nervousness!
He will adore reading about the roller coaster of emotions you have from being with him. Describe the feeling as best you can and it is likely his feeling while reading this text will reflect yours.
For example: The excitement I feel when I see you arrive to pick me up from work is surreal. Butterflies do not describe the intensity of what I feel in my stomach!
6. Tell him what you see in your future together
This part of your text is what can be most unique. The reason we suggest involving your hopes and dreams of your shared future is that it lets him know that you want your relationship to last! It can be thought of as an unspoken agreement with your partner that you both have plans to stay with one another, but it is always nice to have the opportunity to give him some certainty.
Here are a couple of parts to consider typing about talking about your future together:
- Goals and Milestones
What would you like to achieve with your partner in life? We recommend that you think of your own goals, take a step back, and think of how your shared goals fit in with those plans.
- Happiness
We’ve touched upon your feelings for him already. It can be a nice way to link it back in. Keep it simple! You’re so happy now with him and you do not want that to change! Also, don’t be shy, use words like ‘forever’ and ‘always’.
7. Reiterate your story
Time for the last ingredient! You’ve nearly finished creating your perfect love text to your boyfriend!
Every relationship has it’s own story full of twists, turns, ups and downs. Over time many people may get to know parts of this story, but at the end of the day, it is only you and your partner who know every last detail. This is certainly something to cherish.
To complete your text full of life and love, we think it has great effect to retell the narrative of how you fell in love. He may already have been told your side of the story but even so, it serves as a great way to summarise the message!
Once again, this links well to several of the previous steps in your text; your feelings for him, the history between you and what is to come!
We have answered the why. It is time to answer the how.
Here is a guide to help you in this summary step.
Origin – How did it all begin? Where and when did you meet? What brought you together?
The present – What is happening for you both now? Think of recent milestones in your relationship or hurdles you’ve overcome.
The unwritten – This ties into step 6, specifically your future. The difference here is that you place emphasis on the unkown rather than hopes and dreams. Assure him that there is story yet to be written and no matter what life throws at you, you’ll stick by his side!
That’s a wrap!
Your text is complete! Now all you have to do is hit send and wait for his response! Nothing says “I love you” better than a novel of a text proclaiming your love.
What we stress most is that you have fun with it! These steps are to help focus your components of the text however mindless tangents can lead to some very memorable sentences.
We hope you have a great time typing this love text to your boyfriend.
