Have you been in a long-term relationship and run out of things to talk about? Bored of general conversation and want to spice things up? Check out these conversation starters for couples that will take discussions with your partner to a whole new level!
Being in a long-term relationship is great! You get to enjoy life with someone you feel comfortable with, who knows you better than anyone else and loves you for who you are. Unfortunately, a lot of conversation is built around getting to know the person you are talking to… so already knowing so much about your partner can lead conversations to become a bit stale and mundane for some.
If you are on a date night, or even just at home with your partner, and are tired of the endless spiral of asking about each other day (which, don’t get me wrong, is important to do) then try exploring some of these conversation starters for couples to get a new type of conversation going with your partner.
This post is all about conversation starters for couples.
The Best Conversation Starters For Couples:
Conversation Starters For The Deep Thinkers:
Time to dive deep! You can learn so much about yourself and your partner by having conversations about deep, philosophical, or challenging topics. Chatting with your partner about deep topics allows you to practice navigating varying opinions, making sure your thoughts are properly heard, and managing your communication if things get heated. These are all great skills to develop for healthy communication in a relationship.
Use these conversation starters to have a thought-provoking conversation with your partner:
- Do you think humans are designed to be naturally good or bad? Why do you think that?
- If you were suddenly made president of (insert country), what would be the first thing you’d change?
- In what ways do you think media affects our view of relationships?
- If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?
- What do you think happens after we die?
- In your opinion, does money truly buy happiness?
- Do you think soul mates exist?
- Does everything happen for a reason?
- Would you still want to work if you won the lottery? If so, what would you do for a job?
- If you got the chance to go back and redo your past, would you? Why or why not?
- Would you rather know the date and time of your death or know how you will die?
- What is your opinion on free will, does it really exist?
- What is the most ideal number of kids for a couple to have and why?
- What do you think dreams are? What is their purpose?
- Is it better to be liked or respected?
- In your opinion, under what circumstances is it okay to lie?
- What does the concept of “true love” mean to you?
- Do you think gaining money and power affects who someone is as a person?
- Do you think that there is such a thing as luck?
- If you were offered one million dollars with the knowledge that a stranger would die if you took the money, would you still take it?
- Is social charm or intelligence a more valuable quality in life?
- At what point in life are we no longer considered innocent?
- To what extent do you think a person’s name influences who they become?
- Is every human life equal?
- If you had the opportunity, would you choose to be immortal?
Conversation Starters For The Light-hearted Couples
Not everything has to be super serious! Having light-hearted chats can also be great way to build joy in communicating with your partner. Talking about less serious things can create a bit of fun, maybe a couple of laughs and build intimacy through the enjoyment of each others company.
Have some light hearted conversations with these few conversation starters:
- If you could choose a new name for yourself, what would it be and why?
- Tell me about your most embarrassing moment
- What is the craziest dream you have ever had?
- Would you rather live by the mountains or the sea and why?
- If you could live your life as an animal, what animal would you choose to be?
- Tell me about the worst present you ever got.
- Which one of us would die first in a horror movie?
- When was the last time that you laughed until you got tears in your eyes? What made you laugh that hard?
- What is an odd smell that you secretly love?
- What song would you pick to be the theme song of your life?
- What is the worst movie you have ever seen and why?
- What is the best piece of advice you have ever been given?
- If you could be anywhere in the world right now, where would you be and why?
- Which actor/actress would you get to star you in a movie about your life?
- If you had to give up one of your senses, what would it be and why?
- What type of fry is the best?
- If you were to pick an item of clothing to represent you, what would you choose and why?
- If you were to live as a cat/dog for a day, what would you do for the day?
- Do you think pink and white marshmallows taste different from each other? Do you prefer pink or white marshmallows?
- If you had to combine two animals to create a new species, what two animals would you combine? What would your animal be called?
- How would you describe a sunset to someone who has never seen colour before?
- If you could choose anyone, who would you choose to narrate your inner voice?
- Does sound still exist if something if nothing is around to hear it?
- What would be your choice of weapon in a zombie apocalypse?
- If you could create a new day of the week, what would you name it and where in the week would it be?
- Would you rather live in an average house in your dream location or dream house in an average location?
- If you could do one thing, without consequences, what would it be?
- Would you rather never have to stand in a line again or never have to wait for a red light for the rest of your life?
Conversation Starters For Couples Who Like To Reflect
Let’s take a walk down memory lane. Having a chance to reflect on your relationship with your partner can be a great way to reinforce positive memories you’ve shared and to create an intimate moment together. It can also help you figure out what you have done right in the past and may highlight what you might need to work on moving forward.
Reflect on the relationship you have shared with your partner with these conversation starters:
- Tell me about your favourite memory of us together
- In your opinion, what is the funniest moment that we have shared?
- Do you remember that time when we….
- Tell me about the moment that you knew you were in love with me
- What is the first thing that you noticed about me?
- What do you think makes our relationship unique?
- If our love story was a movie, what would it be called?
- If you noticed that we were drifting apart, what would you do to bring us closer together again?
- What did you think was the most attractive thing about me when we first met and why? Has this changed?
- What is the most important thing that you looked for in our relationship?
- What is something I do that makes you feel special?
- Is there anything I do that bothers you? If so, what?
- When do you feel closest to me?
- What has been your favourite part about our relationship so far?
- What do you think has been the biggest challenge we have overcome as a couple?
- Describe our relationship in using only five words
- Is there something that we no longer do that you miss doing together?
- What was your favourite part about the beginning of our relationship?
- What was going through your head when we shared our first kiss?
- Looking back, is there something that you wished you had revealed to me sooner?
- If you could go back and tell yourself one thing about our relationship, what would it be?
- In what ways do you think we have grown as a couple since we first met?
This post was all about conversation starters for couples. To the deep thinkers, the light hearted and for those who like to reflect, we hope that these conversation starters have sparked some interesting discussions between you and your boo!
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