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This post is all about positive affirmations for her.

According to Positive Psychology positive affirmations are “positive phrases or statements used to challenge negative or unhelpful thoughts.” Help your girlfriend/wife harness the power of positive affirmations by reminding her how amazing she is using one of the affirmations on the list below or coming up with your own. We have created positive affirmations for you regarding, self image, effort, security and making her feel special. We believe using these sorts of affirmations has the potential to help you improve her self image, improve her confidence and help you communicate your love to her.  

In addition, being able to think and speak positively about your girlfriend/wife, subconsciously reinforces the way you feel about her. It also helps you to keep viewing her in a positive light, which can impact the way you behave toward her and the way you view her actions. So go ahead and start affirming all the wonderful things about her!

The Best Affirmations For Your Girlfriend/Wife:

Build Up Her Self-Image with positive affirmations

Your girlfriend/wife’s self image is made up of how she views herself and how she feels about herself. This includes her physical appearance, as well as the characteristics that make her the unique individual that she is. As her partner, what you say can have an impact on her self image, so be sure to be filling her with the confidence she deserves to have about herself!

Help her feel more positive about how she looks

For a number of women, they way that they feel about their physical appearance can seriously impact their confidence and self image. While affirmations about her looks may only momentarily impactful, it is still really lovely for her to hear them form you. Hearing about physical features that other people (like yourself) like about her can help make herself feel good about herself and start to look at herself more positively. For some women, specific affirmations like these examples can really stick with her and improve her self image (it’s nice to have something to combat any negative thoughts she might have about the way she looks). Plus, it can be a real boost of confidence for some (if not most) women to know how attractive their partner finds them. 

Affirm her physical appearance using these affirmations:

• “Your eyes are honestly mesmerising. (describe what you love about her eyes, e.g. Looking into your eyes makes me feel like I’m swimming in a crystal clear lagoon. The way that you have these little flecks of different shades of blue makes me think of the light dancing off the waves. I feel at peace looking into your eyes). I could happily get lost in them forever.”
• “Your smile is the most beautiful smile I have ever seen. The way it illuminates your face and allows your radiance to shine through. It honestly lights me up inside every time I see it.”
• “Wow! (pause for a second and look her up and down) You look absolutely stunning. I am so incredibly lucky.” 
• “You have such a great style. You always look absolutely gorgeous. I love that you take pride in your appearance.”
• “Your beauty takes my breath away. The way your hair…… (describe her hair e.g. flows so silkily down your back). The way that the light dances in your…. (adjective + eye colour). How you look when you walk into a room. It never fails to leave me speechless.”
• Tell her about your favourite part of her appearance and why it is your favourite.

Make her feel good about who she is as a person

While looks fade, who you are as a person remains. Affirming who your girl is as a person and recognising the beautiful qualities that make her unique is so important. It not only makes her feel good about who she is but it is also serves as a reminder to you as to why you love her. Also, having your personal qualities be noticed and affirmed can be deeply impactful and can have lasting effects on her self image. Make your girl feel great about herself by using these next few affirmations (make sure you tailor them to her unique qualities though).

Affirm her character with these affirmations:

• “Trust in your abilities because you are a truly capable and talented individual.”
• “I adore your flair for life, your energy, and your sense of adventure. It inspires me to live my life to the fullest.”
• “I love that you always try to see the best in everyone. I also love you are able to see so much beauty in the world. You are what reminds me that there is goodness all around us and that there is goodness that lies in everyone.”
• “You are so thoughtful and caring. You never fail to do nice things for those around you and care for those who you don’t even know. Your selflessness is so admirable.”
• “Your resilience is inspiring! I love that you are able to motivate yourself to persevere even when you experience challenges or setbacks. I also love that you grow from your mistakes rather than letting them own you. You are simply amazing, I believe in you and all that you are capable of. 
• “I love your calmness, you bring a sense of peace and serenity to everyone around you. You are the calm in the chaos that life can be.”
• “You are so intelligent and insightful. The things you have to say are so fascinating and your opinions are always so well-considered. I think you have an absolutely brilliant mind.”
• “You are so witty and funny. Your sense of humour never fails to make me smile. I love when you make me laugh so hard that my ribcage starts to hurt.”
• “You are such a strong woman. You have been through so much, yet you don’t let that define you. You have the confidence to power through life’s challenges and you are brave enough to ask for help when you need it- that takes a lot of strength. I really admire you for it.”
• “You are such a considerate person. You always take the needs of others into account and you are always able to show such empathy to those around you. You are seriously skilled at making people feel valid and valued. I love you for it.”

Acknowledge Her Efforts

While most people don’t put in effort purely just to be recognised, a little bit of recognition can go a long way. Consider all of the little things your girl does for you that might go unnoticed, she does them for you without expecting them to be noticed or for her to be thanked. Now imagine how nice it would feel to her to have you notice the little things she does for you (the things that are possibly her way of showing her love for you) and mention them to her. Recognising her efforts is a way of keeping her motivated and shows that her love is being successfully communicated. 

Recognise her efforts with these affirmations:

• “I seriously admire your persistence, your dedication, and your passion in life. Watching you work towards your goals inspires me every day. I love how hard you are working to build a beautiful life with me.”
• “I see the efforts that you make every day and I am so grateful. Thank you for everything that you do.”
• “I am so proud of you and so proud of everything that you do.”
• “You never fail to amaze me, with how much effort you put into everything and what you are capable of.”
• “Thank you for always being there for me when I need you. You are my rock. You make me feel so safe and loved.”
• “I have seen how much effort you have put into people around you recently. You are such a great friend. They are so lucky to have you in their lives. You are a blessing.”
• “You are worthy of all the success and happiness that you get in life.”
• “It means so much to me how much effort you put into our relationship, it makes me feel so special and loved.”
• “You are so attentive, I really admire how you strive to fully listen to people and make them feel heard.”
• “I see how hard you are working right now and I am so proud of you, keep it up!”
• “Thank you so much for….(tell her something that you have noticed her doing recently), it has meant a lot because (tell her why this is noteworthy for you).”

Make Her Feel Special With These Affirmations

These affirmations are simply just to make her feel like a great partner and to make her feel special to you. It’s a wee chance to let her know how much she means to you.

Make her feel special by showing her your love:

“I cherish being able to wake up next to you every morning, it is my favourite part of my day. Rolling over and getting to see your beautiful face next to me makes me so undeniably happy.”

• “When you entered my life everything changed for the better. You make every moment in my life infinitely more special. I will forever be truly grateful to have you in my life.”
• “You are the most incredible woman I have ever met. You never fail to impress me with your brilliance.”
• “I wish words could describe how happy you truly make me. You make even the dullest moments joyful. You have a way of making me laugh even when I don’t feel like smiling. You are the ray of sunshine in my life.”
• “You have a permanent spot in my thoughts. I am always thinking of you. For example I thought about you today when… or whenever I see…. you immediately pop into my mind.”
• “There is so much to love about you. From (your favourite physical characteristic), to (your favourite part of her personality). I am forever finding new things that I love about you.”
• “Every day that I get to wake up next to you is a great day, you make my day.”
• “Your love and unwavering support make me feel like the luckiest person in the world. Thank you for being my best friend, my partner in crime, my confident, my everything. With you by my side, I feel like I can do anything.”

Increase Her Feelings Of Security 

For women that have insecurities or relationship anxiety, making sure to affirm her in this way can be extremely important. While it might not permanently change her thoughts and feelings it can provide some momentary reassurance that you are committed to her (be sure to be true to your words and back them up with your actions). Even if you have a super secure relationship, it is always nice to give a bit of reassurance from time to time and let her know that you want her above anyone else. 

Make her feel more secure with these affirmations:

• “I just had to pinch myself because I was convinced I was still dreaming… you are seriously a dream come true”
• “I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I want to build a life with you and experience all the good and the bad by your side. I want to make beautiful memories with you that we can look back and reflect on when we are old.”
• “I love living life with you. Nobody could give me the joy, the security, the friendship, and the love that you do. You give me everything that I want in life and more. I want to always be able to give you the same in return.”
• “If I could choose to spend my life with anyone in this world, I would choose you time and time again. You are what completes my life.”
• “You are my lover and my best friend. I want to grow old with you so that we can be crazy old people getting into mischief together.”
• “I have never met a woman more perfect for me than you. As far as I am concerned I never will because I am all yours. There is no need to look elsewhere when I have everything that I need right here.”

“You are cherished. You are worthy. You are valued. You are enough.”

You know your girlfriend/wife is amazing! Hopefully this post has helped you be inspired to tell so and helped you figure out how you’ll express this to her. Let your words of affirmation give her a little boost of confidence and make her day that much better. Help her see herself through your eyes.