This post is all about signs that he’s serious about you.
It’s difficult in the early days of a relationship, you sit there analyzing everything! You’re keeping a watch out for signs that he’s not using you, hoping for signs that he is serious about your relationship. It can be super nerve-wracking! And yeah, it can be super difficult to spot some of these signs, because they can be super subtle and everyone will have different ways of affirming their interest. So, to help you on your journey to figuring out whether he is set on you, we have come up with the ultimate list of signs that he’s serious about you.
How to know if a guy is serious about you
As we mentioned just before, people have different ways of expressing themselves. Your man may have different ways of showing his commitment to you than people in your previous relationships. However, there are some signs that are a little bit more out there and lowkey a little more obvious and easy to spot.
4 Obvious signs he wants a serious relationship with you:
1. You feature in his future plans:
He may be talking about vacations, future events, or even his life goals. Whatever the future plans, if he mentions you in them, or, even better, makes those plans with you, that’s a good sign that he’s serious about you being in his life.
2. Your living spaces start to become intertwined:
Maybe he’s started creating space for stuff at his place and/or he’s started bringing more of his stuff around to your place and is leaving it there (maybe he’s even got a designated drawer or something). This could be a way for him to slowly start combining his life with yours. Hey, maybe he’s even been super obvious about it and asked you to move in with him- that’s definitely a sign he wants things to become more serious.
3. He introduces you to his friends and family:
This is a big one for a lot of people. It can be a really obvious sign that he’s serious about you. Introducing you to his close friends and family can be a big step for some guys. It can show you that he wants you to be a part of his inner circle and that he feels strongly enough about you to warrant introducing him to the people who are closest to him. If you’re in a new relationship he could show this sign differently. He may start by dropping hints about it or he may casually start talking about introducing you to them. This can still show that he may be starting to feel serious about you.
4. He expresses his love for you:
If he frequently expresses his love and affection for you and you can tell it is genuine, then yeah this is a pretty good sign he’s serious about you. Better yet, if he says “I love you” and means it – saying these three words is something a lot of guys don’t take lightly.
10 Subtle signs he’s serious about you
1. Your needs are a priority to him:
If your happiness and your well-being are a priority to him, it shows he cares about you. Maybe you’ve also been lucky enough to find someone who is attentive to your needs. For example: if he knows you’ve had a stressful day, he’s there for you and knows what you need to calm down and relax. This can be a sign that he is emotionally invested in the relationship and deeply cares about you.
2. He puts consistent effort into the relationship:
He consistently puts effort into maintaining effort into the relationship, whether it’s to maintain the relationship, improve it, or just simply show you that he cares. He could do this through small gestures or bigger surprises (if that’s your thing). Either way, it’s the fact that he has enough consistent thought and motivation to show you he cares that is the reason this is a sign he’s serious about you. Putting effort into improving himself (if done with the right intentions) can also be a sign he’s serious about you because it can that he wants to be the best version of himself (and the best partner) for you.
3. He invests his time into you:
He makes an effort to spend quality time with you and truly values the moments you share together. When he’s with you he pays attention to you and really makes an effort to make the most of his time with you. When he’s not around, he makes an effort to keep in touch with you regularly and shows genuine interest in your day and well-being.
4. He cheers you on:
He’s there to encourage and support you to achieve your goals- whether they are personal or professional. You can tell he genuinely wants what is best for you and wants you to achieve your dreams. This can show you that he is emotionally invested in you and wants to be there for your journey to your personal success.
5. He respects your need for space:
Everyone needs alone time in their relationships. if he is serious about you, he won’t smother you and will respect your need to have breathing room in the relationship. He can show that he is both emotionally mature and that he’s serious about building a healthy relationship if he respects this need for personal space. It can also show that he understands the importance of maintaining individual independence within the relationship.
6. He’s open with you:
If he is able to open up to you and share his feelings and emotions with you, it shows you that he trusts you enough to be vulnerable with you. If he shares his personal stories, dreams, aspirations, and desires with you. This shows that he has a desire to connect on a deeper level and is comfortable letting you see the real him.
7. You can depend on him:
He makes an effort to be reliable and consistent in his actions. He also follows through on his promises and commitments. This helps him prove to you that he is a trustworthy and reliable partner and cares about making you feel secure in the relationship. If he is serious about you, you will be able to rely on him being there for you through both the good times and the bad. He won’t skip out on you the minute something challenging comes along.
8. He truly listens to you:
He makes an effort to show that he is actively listening to you when you speak. He also shows genuine interest in your thoughts and opinions and actually gives you the s. You can also tell he has listened because he remembers details about your life, conversations you’ve had together, and the things you like and dislike. This shows that he genuinely cares about you and what you have to say.
9. He respects your boundaries:
Boundaries are essential to healthy relationships! This honestly should be an absolute given in any of your relationships (whether it’s with him, your friends, or your family). Your boundaries should be respected by those around you. If he doesn’t respect your boundaries either 1) He is unaware of them because you haven’t discussed them with him or, 2) He doesn’t respect you as he should. If it is option 1, please consider having an open chat with him about this. If it’s option two, then you need to consider how this may be impacting you. However, if he does respect your boundaries after you’ve told him, it’s a sign he’s serious about creating a healthy relationship with you
10. His language has changed:
However, you may have noticed him start using words like “we” and “our” when talking to others. Maybe what he once referred to as “my_____” has now become “our _____” and when talking about what he’s been up to it’s no longer “I _____” or “my (however he refers to you) and I ____” rather he uses the term “we”. You may have also noticed him use these words when talking about his future plans. This shows that he has started seeing you both as a unit and that may he see a future with you.
Early signs he’s serious about you
Even if you have been dating for a short time, it is still very possible for him to be serious about being with you. For all you know, he might have decided you’re “the one” from the get-go. If you’re wondering if this may be the case for you, check out these early signs a guy is seriously interested in you.
He wants to connect on a deeper level:
He starts engaging in deeper, more meaningful conversations with you. The kind of conversations where the two of you can share your deeper personal thoughts and experiences with each other. You know, the kind of conversations that allow you to start truly understanding each other. It shows he wants to truly get to know you and share himself with you so you can build a proper connection.
Interest in Your World:
They show genuine interest in your interests, hobbies, and passions, even if they differ from their own.
He’s emotionally supportive:
He doesn’t run for the hills if you turn to him for emotional support. Rather, he wants to be there for you and puts in effort to learn how to best support you’re going through a rough time. He’s willing to stand by you and you offer you the right kinds of support and encouragement you need when you face challenges or setbacks.
He shows he cares about you:
There are many ways in which he can show he cares about you. How he expresses this will just depend on his natural love language, so be sure to be on the look out for different ways he might express this. For example, he may express his feelings through going out of his way to do things for you, whether it’s helping with chores, giving you a massage after you’ve had a long day, or offering assistance when you need it. Or, he may randomly surprise you with small, thoughtful gestures that show they’ve been paying attention to your likes and dislikes.
He is willing to make compromises for you:
If he is willingly able to make small sacrifices or adjustments to accommodate your needs or schedule it is a sign he’s serious about you. It shows that your needs are also important to him, that they are a priority as much as his own. It also shows that he is willing to start working with you as a team and compromise when needed.
He’s the one asking for an exclusive relationship:
Lastly, one of the most obvious signs he’s serious about you early on is that he asks you to be in an exclusive relationship. He’s told you he wants to put an exclusive label on it and he’s he’s stopped dating or seeing other people. This is 100% a sign he wants to get serious because it’s coming directly from him. He’s being honest with you about what he feels and what he wants, which means you don’t have to guess or assume his feelings.
Okay so you know he’s serious about you, BUT are you serious about him?
He might show all the signs he’s serious about you or even signs he wants to wife you, but that doesn’t mean you share his feelings. It’s perfectly alright not to have the same feelings as he does. However, it is important that you recognise and acknowledge how you feel about him and your relationship and that you communicate this to him. Through doing this, you can either avoid dragging him along and hurting his feelings or you guys can be on the same page and start exploring a more serious relationship together.
Here are some questions you might like to consider to help you decide:
- Is he a keeper?
- Do you want him to be serious about you?
- What was your initial reaction when you figured out he was serious about you?
- Are you serious about him?
- How do you feel when you are with him?
- Can you imagine a future with him in it?
- Can you imagine a life without him around?
This post was all about signs he’s serious about you. Again, it’s important to remember that these signs can vary from person to person and can also vary because of the stage of the relationship you’re in. Also, while we have given you all of these signs to look out for, we are not endorsing you assuming how he feels. If you really want to be absolutely sure about how he feels, he’s the only one who can answer that for you. So, definitely have a discussion with him about it if you’re curious. After all, communication will always be the key way to understanding each other’s intentions and expectations in your relationship.
